Coaching with God: 2/15/06 - Success = Money???

Hello God.

Hello Edward.

I’d like to continue the conversation we were having last night.

Wonderful.

And I’d like to try and stay focused on the money piece. It’s been coming up again today.

Good. Where would you like to begin?

I’d like to begin with success. I’m finalizing the content for tomorrow night’s class on defining success, and I’m realizing, I think for the first time, the extent to which I have internalized this belief that earning lots of money is THE definition of success. And while I know it’s not true, I can feel the roots of that belief dug into the depths of my being. Yes, that may be a bit dramatic, but it really does feel that way.

Actually, it doesn’t sound dramatic at all. It sounds perfectly believable to me.

Well thank you for that feedback. It’s good to know that I’m not just being a whiner.

Doesn’t sound whiny to me. At least not yet.

Hello God.

Hello Edward.

I’d like to continue the conversation we were having last night.

Wonderful.

And I’d like to try and stay focused on the money piece. It’s been coming up again today.

Good. Where would you like to begin?

Actually, it doesn’t sound dramatic at all. It sounds perfectly believable to me.

Well thank you for that feedback. It’s good to know that I’m not just being a whiner.

Doesn’t sound whiny to me. At least not yet.

Good. I don’t want to whine. I do want to explore possible ways to begin unplugging from this belief system.

Great. What ideas can you come up with?

Establish new definitions that feel more real, more powerful, more empowering, more present time, more me.

Sounds good to me. How will you do that?

I’ll do the work I’m assigning for the class. Or redo it. Obviously the definitions I created in the past were not powerful enough to override this one.

Or, perhaps you have not been continuously focused on those definitions.

You’ve got me there. I just found my worksheet from a couple of years ago. It had been “hiding” in a box that I just recently went through looking for something else.

I was not trying to get you. I was merely pointing out that core beliefs such as this one require constant, focused attention to transform. As you said, the roots of this belief are dug in to the deepest places inside you. It will take more than a one time listing of your desired beliefs to dig them out. Think of the most tenacious weeds in your garden. You can pull them out, but often you do not get all of them and then they re-sprout from the tiny pieces that are left behind. So you pull those sprouts up. Again and again, until, finally, one day, you notice that no more of those weeds are coming up in your garden. Transforming your deep-rooted belief systems is the same: you must get down on your hands and knees on a regular basis and pull up the sprouts when you first see them. The sooner you catch them the easier they are to pull up. If you wait too long, they have time to grow and gain strength and propagate and dig their roots down deep again.

Yes. That’s a great metaphor. Not only does it give me an image to use when I’m working on my deep belief systems, it also reminds me of my desire to spend more time in the garden. Getting my hands in the dirt and finding my way into a – hopefully – harmonious relationship with Nature always teaches me something.

Yes, it is good for you.

Can we play with the success definitions that seem to be contributing to those roots?

Of course.

Here are some of the thoughts, beliefs, and feelings that coming up: Money makes the man. You are judged by the size of your wallet/bank account/investments. You have to “make it” by age 40. (Missed that one!) Your value is based on your worth –financial worth that is. Men provide – financially – for their family. Along with these thoughts/beliefs come feelings of inadequacy. I’m not living up to my responsibilities. I haven’t “made it” by 40. Anger, frustration, irritation, impatience that I have not “gotten over it.” --- So did you send these teenage boys in here to help me access that sense of irritation and frustration?

I would never think of such a thing.

Uh Huh!

Well as it turned out, I was saved by a friend, who came walking in and chatted with me and now it’s time for me to go relieve the baby sitter. So your ploy to annoy me was unsuccessful. Let’s continue this later.

I look forward to it.

Me to. Thank you.

You’re welcome.